"Bad Behaviour"

Persistent so-called “bad” behaviour is often the result of the child not receiving sufficient attention to and care for her feelings and needs.  It may also pertain to the parent not being clear in themselves in terms of providing right-for-evolution guidance. When neither self-awareness nor attention to needs and feelings are commonplace in a home, the child finds excruciating ways to convey her inner disharmony.  Being an intelligent and creative being who knows that having these needs met by a solid support system is her birthright, she will relentlessly seek and test out increasingly effective ways to draw attention to her ungrounded situation.  Chronic behaviours such as acting out, whining, tantrums, hitting, shouting and aggression are big alarm bells for the parent - calls out requesting increased connection to a grounded leader.

A child stifled by a parent who unconsciously sticks to surface remedial action -- to control and stop the outward expression -- will continue to find creative ways to wake the parent up to awareness of the unattended to needs burning inside.  This pattern of negative attention-getting behaviour coupled with the parent's surface-level thwarting of the outward behaviour is a viscous cycle of “Plumber Parenting” > > persistently focused on patching leaks rather than consciously connecting and tuning-in to something deeper and greater.